We are approaching the holiday season, and with that, an increase in family gatherings. I love this quote from Ram Dass, because it reminds us that seeing family is actually part of our spiritual development. Meditation, acupuncture, and other self-care practices, are meant to be applied to life. Having contact with family, though sometimes difficult, allows us to put our spiritual work into practice. 

Here are a few ways to not only survive, but thrive, during the holidays: 

1. If we get triggered by something, think of it as an opportunity for growth. We can think to ourselves, “What behavior of mine is being highlighted in this moment for deletion?” Family is excellent at highlighting areas of ourselves that still need evolving—quite a humbling experience. 

2. Look for the need of the time. We never want to be the neediest one in the room. How can we make things easier for our family over the holidays? Meeting the demands of life will bring us waves of happiness.

3. If we overreact or behave in a way that is less than ideal, we can have compassion for ourselves. We aren’t here to be perfect. We are always evolving and growing. 

4. In the same way that we show compassion for ourselves, we can show compassion for our family. Everyone is evolving at their own pace, it’s good to show patience and grace with our loved ones. 

5. Get to your self-care practices during the holidays. Make them non-negotiable. For me this is practicing Vedic Meditation and receiving regular acupuncture. When we take care of ourselves first, we are able to show up for everyone else with a full cup.  

When we practice the above, we will be the exemplars of calm in an otherwise chaotic season. What helps you thrive during the holidays?